Dear Grandmother,
There is nothing easy about this dying.
But what matters now and only now, is how you gave everything to this world, especially to my brother and I. The way you kept all of your promises and how you saw every single one of my baseball games and how you knew how to say I Love You even in those last days when you were so weak you couldn't move your lips.
and then there was your sister, who did the same for her family. How similar you both were, the way you gave up everything for someone. I only hope you knew how appreciative we all were. But in the end, how unsurprising it was, both of you leaving this life of wanting, no more than a half day apart. How close you were your entire lives, soul mates with the same blood. Nothing would make more sense than holding the other's hand into the unknown.
For you both, here are two poems for which I will hum to you every day for the rest of my life.
The first by Donald Justice, I have found, out of all the poems I have ever read, to be the saddest. And another by e.e. cummings for which I find to be one of the most beautiful poems.
There is nothing else, than to have both these at the same time, so heavy with their own weight.
Psalm and LamentIn memory of my mother (1897-1974)
Hialeah, Florida
The clocks are sorry, the clocks are very sad.
One stops, one goes on striking the wrong hours.
And the grass burns terribly in the sun,
The grass turns yellow secretly at the roots.
Now suddenly the yard chairs look empty, the sky looks empty,
The sky looks vast and empty.
Out on Red Road the traffic continues; everything continues.
Nor does memory sleep; it goes on.
Out spring the butterflies of recollection,
And I think that for the first time I understand
The beautiful ordinary light of this patio
And even perhaps the dark rich earth of a heart.
(The bedclothes, they say, had been pulled down.
I will not describe it. I do not want to describe it.
No, but the sheets were drenched and twisted.
They were the very handkerchiefs of grief.)
Let summer come now with its schoolboy trumpets and fountains.
But the years are gone, the years are finally over.
And there is only
This long desolation of flower-bordered sidewalks
That runs to the corner, turns, and goes on,
That disappears and goes on
Into the black oblivion of a neighborhood and a world
Without billboards or yesterdays.
Sometimes a sad moon comes and waters the roof tiles.
But the years are gone. There are no more years.
if there are any heavens my mother will if there are any heavens my mother will(all by herself)have
one. It will not be a pansy heaven nor
a fragile heaven of lilies-of-the-valley but
it will be a heaven of blackred roses
my father will be(deep like a rose
tall like a rose)
standing near my
(swaying over her
silent)
with eyes which are really petals and see
nothing with the face of a poet really which
is a flower and not a face with
hands
which whisper
This is my beloved my
(suddenly in sunlight
he will bow,
& the whole garden will bow)
To the two woman who taught me how to treat everything with compassion, may your loving kindness touch every single inch of all the new worlds.
With much love for all time,
kaw